I love this post. Ive at times felt that some of the exiles I've befriended and found some space with dont have a voice. They only know how to react by being extreme. Checking in and also helping them find a new role and voice so they dont become "Missing Parts" seems to be a key for me. What do you think?
Yes, I agree. And what I wanted to point to (maybe not managing) is that after we checked in for a while, and the parts developed a voice, and everything felt fine, at times we just move on with life.
(Meaning we maybe do not spend 1-4h a day journaling and checking in with parts. I know I don't do it all the time)
So: what happened to those parts that first got invited to the system, integrated, listened to, when we go back to listening?
1-4 hours feels like a lot of time to spend intentionally connecting. I’m curious what your routine is with checking in. I generally go through my days walking with the different parts, open to whatever comes up. Mostly that works, occasionally I miss cues, am blindsided by some feeling in my stomach or chest and have to withdraw and find time to process what I’m feeling and my parts are trying to say.
I may need to reread this one a few times. One issue I've had is knowing or recognizing if I'm dealing with a returning part. It's not as clear to me if I'm checking in again or interacting with a new part. I may need to do a little art and naming or something, but I'm not sure why that seems more difficult for me. Hmm... Could be ADHD. And maybe the parts can help me out with that. Guess I better check in and ask!
I love this post. Ive at times felt that some of the exiles I've befriended and found some space with dont have a voice. They only know how to react by being extreme. Checking in and also helping them find a new role and voice so they dont become "Missing Parts" seems to be a key for me. What do you think?
Yes, I agree. And what I wanted to point to (maybe not managing) is that after we checked in for a while, and the parts developed a voice, and everything felt fine, at times we just move on with life.
(Meaning we maybe do not spend 1-4h a day journaling and checking in with parts. I know I don't do it all the time)
So: what happened to those parts that first got invited to the system, integrated, listened to, when we go back to listening?
1-4 hours feels like a lot of time to spend intentionally connecting. I’m curious what your routine is with checking in. I generally go through my days walking with the different parts, open to whatever comes up. Mostly that works, occasionally I miss cues, am blindsided by some feeling in my stomach or chest and have to withdraw and find time to process what I’m feeling and my parts are trying to say.
I may need to reread this one a few times. One issue I've had is knowing or recognizing if I'm dealing with a returning part. It's not as clear to me if I'm checking in again or interacting with a new part. I may need to do a little art and naming or something, but I'm not sure why that seems more difficult for me. Hmm... Could be ADHD. And maybe the parts can help me out with that. Guess I better check in and ask!